He was trim, tall, bearded (as they all seem to be), a recent transplant, having only lived in Seattle for a year or so and worked at a start-up, after burning out at Amazon (as they all seem to have).He rode his bike around town; he had good taste in food and wine; and he lived across the street from where we were meeting.Make no mistake: Improved sex ed and access to birth control are stunning advancements, essential for the health of the world and the individual; for the agency and equality of women.But to deny that these advancements also enabled the hookup culture is silly.Looking at the most recently available census data, we explored the demographics of the “marriage market” based on what women said they want in a spouse.Nationwide, single young men outnumber their female counterparts.
“Everyone seems to have their own definition,” Jo told me. The hookup—a brief sexual encounter between individuals who aren’t romantic partners—has made enough alarmist news over the last two years as the millennial generation’s horny replacement for dating that I felt like I should know something about it, being the mother of a teenage girl and all. What’s new is the cultural expectation surrounding it.Trust us, interesting singles over 50 are out there, and you don't have to put up with the stench of a seedy nightclub at 2 a.m. All it takes is the right mind-set and a little strategy.He also showed me responses from women he tried to connect with, and other data from several of the most popular dating sites and apps, such as e-harmony, Tinder, match.com, datehookup.com, chemistry.com, Speed Date, and Plenty Of Fish.“As soon as I tell a woman I’m a stoner, that’s pretty much the end of the conversation,” he said.As for finding the right hookup, there is now—what else—an app for that, in the form of Tinder, wherein prowling singles can size up the photos of available others within a certain radius of their location.(So rabid was Tinder’s popularity in Sochi’s Olympic Village this winter, its cofounder issued a statement exhorting Team USA to put down their Tinder profiles and get their heads back in the game.) Today’s teens and twentysomethings live in a society that’s all but turning down the beds and setting out the dental dams for the little dears.Young adults who would like to get married naturally start looking for love in the community they live in, but in some parts of the country, the odds may be against them.